Freakin' Dr Jekyll!!

Ok people, it's been almost a month since my last blog - you know how it goes - work, recession, work, recession, yada yada yada. Seems like 2 steps forward, 4 steps back. I keep playing MegaMillions - most i've won to date - 16 buck-a-roos - enough for a coffee!

Anyhow - that's not what I came out of hibernation to chat about tonight. I'd like to talk about the age old problem of 2 faced-ness! Yes - we all have done it - and we all have experienced it! We say one thing and do another. We think one thing and act like another. Now - sometimes its warranted for example - when your date is wearing the outfit fresh from the Geek Squad; or how about the haircut that ate Manhattan - and puked it all over their head?? Those are the times that 2 faced-ness isn't so bad. We don't want to hurt feelings - or at the very least we want to have a good date so we may need to put on that alter ego for the evening to ensure they pay the bill. Afterall - enduring an evening with that - we are definitely paying so much more!!

No - what i'm talking about is those freakin' people out there who pass themselves off as one person only to find out that they are really a totally different person! What the hell is up with that???? This is a severe 2 facedness that needs to be paid attention to more! So many times it's later than sooner that we find this out (which is not good) and then people actually get hurt. Kudos to those who find out in time and get out of the relationship! Even if you're just in a friendship - it can still hurt and piss you off when you find out your friend is not who you thought they were. People - listen - this is a crazy mixed up world we live in - BE CAREFUL!!

Now, nothing happened to me but I am aware of situations in this world that people are getting hurt in. This is really pissing me off!! A note to those who are experiencing this type of relationship right now. If you are the one enduring the person who is being 2 faced - LEAVE! Go to the door, turn the knob, and walk through. You are worth so much more than having to endure something as crappy as that! Your life is precious - you only have one - make it count as much as you can!! Staying in a relationship like this will anchor you down to the ground and force you to become a bottom feeder, only able to survive on the scraps this IDIOT is throwing to you. You are valuable!! DO NOT allow this creep (male or female) to control you! You may "love" this person - but in order to truly love you have GOT TO love yourself first - and enough to make sure you are okay. You can never truly love if you are enslaved. What do I mean by enslaved? I'm glad you asked. To be enslaved by a person means that who you are, how you act, what you do - all of this revolves around the reactions of one person. Now there's a difference between not doing one thing because it may make someone upset and changing who your are as a person because someone demands you be a certain way. This is enslavement.

If you are in this type if relationship, whether it's your boyfriend or girlfriend (I know some pretty scary females out there), you have got to get out. If you are not strong enough to leave on your own then call someone when you can and ask them to come get you. Don't be embarrassed, don't be ashamed, this is for YOU. A true friend will not judge you - they love you and want to help you. Call them. Regarding the relationhship you're leaving - if that person truly loves you then they will seek professional help and get over the demons that are controlling their lives. Remember - they already have something ugly controlling their lives - DON'T LET IT CONTROL YOURS!!

If you are a "friend" of the 2faced one - please step back and look at the situation objectively and get your friend some help. Please DO NOT blame the abused one. Please look at all the events and try to be as rational as possible. The friend will never get better if we don't look at the whole picture!

People, this is not only a local problem, rather, this is a global epidemic! How do we combat this?? How do we support those who need the help to get out? How do we support those who need treatment to learn how to live with this type of mindset or oversome this type of mindset? I don't know all of those answers. I wish I did. All I know at this point is that if you know someone going through this - please love that person. Support that person. Help that person the best way you know how. Sometimes that means just calling someone who can help them better than you can. And knowing when to be there and when to not be there. That is love.

Well, like I said at the beginning of this journey - I don't know where this trip will bring me. Sometimes I guess part of life is going through dark tunnels. This definitely is one of the darkest you can go through - but necessary to face in order to make it through life triumphantly because this is a reality. Together we can emerge on the other end of this tunnel stronger than when we entered.

Then there will be a time for peace.